When can you turn it off? Should you? Being at a social gathering, in a very mixed group, consisting of few people I know, which is rare in a small town, I have found that people have a tendency to say some really questionable things. Case in point here. I am a hopper, I go from group to group, always wanting to learn new things and meet new people, it’s who I am, it’s why I know so many people. I come into a converation and join in and it’s a mixed gender group of white mid to late twenty year olds, I was probably on the older end. One individual, who is newer in town starts talking about the neighborhood that she moved into, and how it was perhaps a little “ghetto” but that everyone she has interacted with is really great and she likes it.
I am unaware of this area of town as it’s nowhere near me but when she used the term ghetto, I assumed she meant economically depressed, no racial bias held within this phrasing (outwardly intended anyway). Then another guy, who I happen to have met a few times startes talking about this area and how bad it is and it’s a rough neighborhood, “but it’s ok, I went to a school that was 50/50”.
Skeerrrt. Put the brakes on brother. What?! Who said or mentioned anything about race? It’s these micro-aggressions that I have the hardest time dealing with. Here is a man, who is seemingly well-educated who says things like this. I opted not to say anything, so as I wouldn’t come across (once again) as the angry social-justice activist in a party full of folks who were less than sober.I have ideas how I could have handled it, but I chose not to, what would you have done?
See you next time.